Morning Oppo, PSA

"yamahog" (yamahog) 04/02/2015 at 08:43 • Filed to: cringe

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"Badass truck, thought it was a dude's!" is not a compliment.

I get variants of this constantly (including just this morning pulling into work) from well-meaning folks depending on what I'm driving, but the second part just isn't necessary. It says more about the speaker's assumptions than it does about my taste in vehicles. If you want me to go into more detail I can, but it's just not a compliment.

Picture of allegedly badass truck which is not a dude's for your time:

Mattbob > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 08:50

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but... but a penis means better taste in cars! Didn't you know that your chosen method of transportation is directly correlated with your sexytime whatnots?

SidewaysOnDirt still misses Bowie > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 08:52

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One of the few cases of "microaggression" that could be considered legitimate.

Alfalfa Romeo > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 08:53

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Has anyone ever told you that your head looks kinda like The Cheat?

yamahog > Alfalfa Romeo 04/02/2015 at 08:54

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It's hell finding helmets!

yamahog > SidewaysOnDirt still misses Bowie 04/02/2015 at 08:57

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Actually this is probably one of the more innocuous ones I deal with.

SidewaysOnDirt still misses Bowie > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 08:57

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:(

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 09:01

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I'll keep this in mind when complimenting your shiny, new, 'Murican, yellow-encased V8.

yamahog > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com 04/02/2015 at 09:03

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Oh yea, it's only gonna get better from here :P unless some n00b has no hearing and assumes it's a V6 and goes HURRDURR CHICK CAR

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 09:05

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Well, you should probably just go with straight pipes to prevent that.

yamahog > SidewaysOnDirt still misses Bowie 04/02/2015 at 09:06

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Like when a program manager referred to me as my mentor's "assistant", and knows full well I'm an engineer, yet doesn't make this hilarious joke about the 5 other new engineers with mentors for some reason... Enough to grind your gears, not enough to raise hell over.

Smallbear wants a modern Syclone, local Maple Leafs spammer > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 09:07

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I'm fresh out from under my rock... what's the V8 going in?

yamahog > davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com 04/02/2015 at 09:08

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I did tick a loudness box in the options, so we'll hear how nice that is out of the factory. Don't wanna be overcompensating too much ;)

yamahog > Smallbear wants a modern Syclone, local Maple Leafs spammer 04/02/2015 at 09:12

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A brand new car, which will then go in my garage :) all will be revealed soon! Like seriously soon, I'm hoping for the call today or tomorrow.

Smallbear wants a modern Syclone, local Maple Leafs spammer > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 09:13

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HURRDURR CHICK CAR :)

I thought I'd missed some project or something.

BJ > Mattbob 04/02/2015 at 09:16

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"sexytime whatnots"

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 09:17

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Yeah, probably the right decision. You want to get right up next to the line between "badass chick" and "obnoxious a-hole (who just happens to be female)".

I really, really want to make my car a bit louder, but I also really, really don't want my neighbors to hate me. I leave at 7:00 am most mornings...

FJ80WaitinForaLSV8 > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 09:19

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Looking forward to seeing what you chose. My girlfriend gets variations on this when she borrows my car as well. Drives her bonkers.

samssun > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 09:23

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Speaker's assumptions, or observations? Can't really be surprised that others are surprised by something uncommon. Makes as much sense to blame their lying eyes as it does to blame the 97% of girls who don't share your hobby...or for me to be offended when girls giggle at finding out I'm a Heart and Stevie Nicks fan.

yamahog > samssun 04/02/2015 at 10:24

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I knew one of these would pop up. Still not a compliment. You're free to think what you want about the demographics of Jeep drivers (even if you're wrong since there are seriously millions of female Jeep enthusiasts, and new Jeep buyership is about 50-50), but don't be surprised that I don't jump for joy when someone says my vehicle was so badass it could clearly only be driven by a man in their mind. As if it somehow hurts to even think that car ownership isn't a reflection of manliness so in order to pay me a compliment, it must have a man caveat. It's just not necessary.

Choosing to say that assumption aloud and expecting it to be a compliment is what I don't appreciate, but I get that it's subtle to some and most people mean well so that's why I made this PSA to help explain why it's not cool.

Also, blaming other girls for not being "cool enough" to change people's incorrect assumptions about Jeep enthusiasts is just as silly as blaming every straight male Jalop for not owning a Miata to help kill that stupid stereotype.

And as I'm sure you're aware, women are not all feminists and are very much capable of enforcing gender roles (internalized misogyny sucks real hard), but that doesn't make it OK. Seriously, Heart and Stevie Nicks rock and others have no business mocking you for appreciating female artists.

samssun > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 11:54

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It's not an incorrect assumption that most girls don't go mudding in their Jeeps, unless they're also adding "and let's keep it that way!". Girls aren't "mocking me for appreciating female artists", they're surprised to encounter a guy who likes bands that appeal to mostly girls.

All the social engineering in the world is unlikely to convince large numbers of girls to get grimy under a car, and that's the reality of choice, not misogyny. The dogma that everything is a social construct requires incredible feats of cognitive dissonance...how about just being ok that you've picked a non mainstream hobby that happens to be far less mainstream for girls?

yamahog > samssun 04/02/2015 at 12:19

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Something tells me you're not going to accept that it's just not a compliment no matter how many times I explain since you keep getting hung up on tangents. If that's the case, I have no desire to waste time trying to explain nicely over and over, and I'm definitely not going to bother with the rest of your cringe-inducing piles of flat-out wrong. You're entitled to your opinion and I'll leave it at that and wish you a good day.

samssun > yamahog 04/02/2015 at 20:37

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I'm saying compliment vs. oppression is a false choice, sets you up to be pissed forever, and only benefits those who feed on identity politics. Not so great for those of us who don't want a perpetual culture war.